How did this happen??
My baby is three.
I have a post coming about this one....
But we're leaving today, got a flight to catch, going to visit the grandparents and have a family party...
I'm procrastinating packing.
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
Monday, May 14, 2007
Happy Mudder's Day- I not a baby anymore
I had an awesome Mother’s Day. We went to church, breakfast with Dave, Kelly and girls, then back to baptism. Then we came home, took familly naps, went to Olive Garden for dinner (yummy!) and back home for family campfire time. At dinner, Little Man and Daddy went to “wash their hands” and came back with a package from the car. It was a bracelet and a stained glass memory box. All day long, Little Man kept saying “It’s your party Mommy! We eat cake?”
When we were tucking Little Man in last night, after we prayed, he said (out of the blue) “I not a baby anymore” in the most matter-of-fact way possible. I couldn’t help it, I cried. I know he’s not. But he’s still my baby.
I’ve been crying a lot lately on the loss of my baby. I know, like hubby said last night… “Look at it as an accomplishment… you got him from a baby to a boy! You’re the parent of a boy now! You did it!” I know that’s true, but I find myself wanting to hold on to every second of these precious days of my little guy. Every day, bits of his babyhood seem to escape me… the chubby cheeks are slimming up, the rolls on the thighs are long gone, he has long since stopped fitting easily into my lap. And he’s only 2! But he’s tall, and I’m short. I love the little hands, the little feet… He’s not potty trained yet. That is the one thing left that I’ll be glad to see progress on though. I’m not digging those stinky diapers, the how expensive they are once you get to the big sizes.
Anyway, random rumblings on a post Mother’s Day Monday.
When we were tucking Little Man in last night, after we prayed, he said (out of the blue) “I not a baby anymore” in the most matter-of-fact way possible. I couldn’t help it, I cried. I know he’s not. But he’s still my baby.
I’ve been crying a lot lately on the loss of my baby. I know, like hubby said last night… “Look at it as an accomplishment… you got him from a baby to a boy! You’re the parent of a boy now! You did it!” I know that’s true, but I find myself wanting to hold on to every second of these precious days of my little guy. Every day, bits of his babyhood seem to escape me… the chubby cheeks are slimming up, the rolls on the thighs are long gone, he has long since stopped fitting easily into my lap. And he’s only 2! But he’s tall, and I’m short. I love the little hands, the little feet… He’s not potty trained yet. That is the one thing left that I’ll be glad to see progress on though. I’m not digging those stinky diapers, the how expensive they are once you get to the big sizes.
Anyway, random rumblings on a post Mother’s Day Monday.
Tuesday, May 8, 2007
I want a new design!! Pretty, pretty please!!
One of my fave bloggers, Everyday Mommy, who does the most devine blog designs, is giving away a blog design for Mother's Day. I want it!!!
I am pretty computer savvy, but I don't know much about codes, and web design type stuff. And it's one of those things that are hard to figure out totally on your own.
I've checked out some of her designs and I would love to have one. If I win, I think it would inspire me to blog even more and be proud to show it off.
I'm going to attempt to copy the button on her website, but I'm not even sure how to do that. I do know how to copy a pic, so I'll do that. Here's the link to her site.
http://www.everydaymommy.net/
http://www.everydaymommy.net/wp-content/uploads/2007/05/giveaway.jpg
Thursday, May 3, 2007
6 days
Well, I guess this month was slightly better than last month. China matched 6 days of LIDS, through Nov 1, 2005. We are LID 9/13/06. Last month they only did 2 days of LIDs, so that is a slight improvement, but at this rate, it will take years to work through the backlog and to get to our LID. I can't imagine that they actually used to do a full month every month. Right now, I'd be thrilled for them to do 2 weeks like they were a few months ago.
Sigh. I want our baby girl. God's timing is perfect. God's timing is perfect. God's timing is perfect..
On a happy note, we're going to the beach this weekend! Hooray! We'll be meeting J's brother D and his family there and staying in their friend's house.
Hope it's warm and sunny... kinda cool right now. But no matter! We will be at the beach. It's all good.
J
Saturday, April 21, 2007
This and That
Not much new 'round the home front.
It's Saturday morning. J's playing in a golf tournament this morning. We are supposed to have a house showing between 10-12, and an open house between 1-4. So it's 10:47, I've got the house pretty much ready (although I need to dust, thinking I might wait to do that between the showing and the open house... don't want to have Pledge in my hand as the realtor knocks...) and E is watching cartoons. E and I are doing to keep our friends' daughter who is 6 months old this afternoon. It worked out well because it gives E and I a place to go during the open house. Now, to see if we get him down for a nap.... that will be a whole different story. I don't know if the baby will let me put her somewhere long enough to get E to lay down in a strange place to sleep. Oh well... if he's cranky and tired later today due to no nap, so be it.
Latest forecasts on chinaadoptionforecast.com says we won't get our referral until February 2009. sigh. This is the longest wait in the history of the world, I think. Although our heart is in a daughter from China at this point.... I still can't help but remember my preference to do a domestic adoption for our 2nd child, and go to China for our third and final. My thoughts were if we do China 2nd, and still want a third child who is an infant/ domestic, our chances are a lot smaller to be chosen as a family with 2 children already. So do domestic, then China. And even with a long wait domestically, I still think we could have gotten a baby well before our China referral will arrive. Now, I have a fear, (that I haven't even expressed to J) that we will wait until 2009 for a referral, and we won't ever have the chance to do another infant adoption because we'll already have 2 kids, and we'll be older, with older kids.. all the things that seem less attractive to birth moms. I hate for the size of our family to be determined by such things... doesn't seem fair when everyone we knows makes the decision based on what they want, what they can afford to bring up, etc. Of course, I know as I say that, that we are blessed to be able to adopt at all, and adopt a second child. I know there are infertile people out there, who can't afford to adopt the first time. It's just that this whole unnatural aspect to family planning brings up some of infertility pain again. I am so thrilled and excited about our daughter... But if she is our last, it makes me sad to think I won't be able to ever experience that whole newborn stage again. It was such a blessing to get E at 26 days old, but it's hard to think that will be my only experience of having those precious early days with my babies. At this point, if we want to do another adoption, it looks like it might have to be international adoption. Of course, I'm probably limiting God's power in all this. He could have us get miraculously pregnant, or have a baby fall in our lap through word of mouth, or have a birthmother choose us through an agency. I will continue to work on my patience. (since I don't have a choice!!)
On another note, this past week, I started making phone calls about finding an online program for getting certified as a media specialist. (AKA school librarian) Definitely a less stressful option than teaching special ed for when and if I go back to work in a few years when the kids are in school. I gotta do some classes or something to keep my certificate valid anyway, so I might as well put that effort towards getting into a field I would enjoy. I loved many things about special ed, including the kids and the relationships you got to build with them, but I dread IEPs, the paperwork and endless documentation, and meeting with parents so much.... I would dread them for weeks. I always was waiting for the shoe to drop in those meetings and for them to rail me for something I messed up unknowingly or something. Or for them to ask a question I should know the answer to with a master's degree in special education, and I wouldn't know, making me look inept in front of the administration. I don't know if it ever happened in 8 years of teaching, but it was just stressful for me. Doesn't suit the more introverted, "I want everyone to think I did a good job" part of me. It seemed too much of my job was spent doing things other than working with kids. Ironic, I guess, if I do a school librarian's job because you have even less contact in some ways, but I love literature and books. And I have since I learned to read. And it seems less stressful and no paperwork to do at night.
OK, I'm rambling. 11:15 and the realtor that was supposed to come between 10-12 hasn't shown up yet. She was supposed to be showing lots of houses today, and when they do that, lots of times they run out of time, and end up not making it to all the houses. Oops. She literally just called.
Later, gator.
It's Saturday morning. J's playing in a golf tournament this morning. We are supposed to have a house showing between 10-12, and an open house between 1-4. So it's 10:47, I've got the house pretty much ready (although I need to dust, thinking I might wait to do that between the showing and the open house... don't want to have Pledge in my hand as the realtor knocks...) and E is watching cartoons. E and I are doing to keep our friends' daughter who is 6 months old this afternoon. It worked out well because it gives E and I a place to go during the open house. Now, to see if we get him down for a nap.... that will be a whole different story. I don't know if the baby will let me put her somewhere long enough to get E to lay down in a strange place to sleep. Oh well... if he's cranky and tired later today due to no nap, so be it.
Latest forecasts on chinaadoptionforecast.com says we won't get our referral until February 2009. sigh. This is the longest wait in the history of the world, I think. Although our heart is in a daughter from China at this point.... I still can't help but remember my preference to do a domestic adoption for our 2nd child, and go to China for our third and final. My thoughts were if we do China 2nd, and still want a third child who is an infant/ domestic, our chances are a lot smaller to be chosen as a family with 2 children already. So do domestic, then China. And even with a long wait domestically, I still think we could have gotten a baby well before our China referral will arrive. Now, I have a fear, (that I haven't even expressed to J) that we will wait until 2009 for a referral, and we won't ever have the chance to do another infant adoption because we'll already have 2 kids, and we'll be older, with older kids.. all the things that seem less attractive to birth moms. I hate for the size of our family to be determined by such things... doesn't seem fair when everyone we knows makes the decision based on what they want, what they can afford to bring up, etc. Of course, I know as I say that, that we are blessed to be able to adopt at all, and adopt a second child. I know there are infertile people out there, who can't afford to adopt the first time. It's just that this whole unnatural aspect to family planning brings up some of infertility pain again. I am so thrilled and excited about our daughter... But if she is our last, it makes me sad to think I won't be able to ever experience that whole newborn stage again. It was such a blessing to get E at 26 days old, but it's hard to think that will be my only experience of having those precious early days with my babies. At this point, if we want to do another adoption, it looks like it might have to be international adoption. Of course, I'm probably limiting God's power in all this. He could have us get miraculously pregnant, or have a baby fall in our lap through word of mouth, or have a birthmother choose us through an agency. I will continue to work on my patience. (since I don't have a choice!!)
On another note, this past week, I started making phone calls about finding an online program for getting certified as a media specialist. (AKA school librarian) Definitely a less stressful option than teaching special ed for when and if I go back to work in a few years when the kids are in school. I gotta do some classes or something to keep my certificate valid anyway, so I might as well put that effort towards getting into a field I would enjoy. I loved many things about special ed, including the kids and the relationships you got to build with them, but I dread IEPs, the paperwork and endless documentation, and meeting with parents so much.... I would dread them for weeks. I always was waiting for the shoe to drop in those meetings and for them to rail me for something I messed up unknowingly or something. Or for them to ask a question I should know the answer to with a master's degree in special education, and I wouldn't know, making me look inept in front of the administration. I don't know if it ever happened in 8 years of teaching, but it was just stressful for me. Doesn't suit the more introverted, "I want everyone to think I did a good job" part of me. It seemed too much of my job was spent doing things other than working with kids. Ironic, I guess, if I do a school librarian's job because you have even less contact in some ways, but I love literature and books. And I have since I learned to read. And it seems less stressful and no paperwork to do at night.
OK, I'm rambling. 11:15 and the realtor that was supposed to come between 10-12 hasn't shown up yet. She was supposed to be showing lots of houses today, and when they do that, lots of times they run out of time, and end up not making it to all the houses. Oops. She literally just called.
Later, gator.
Saturday, April 14, 2007
7 months... and what's been going on lately
Yesterday was seven months since we were LID. We had a couple from church over for dinner who are interested in starting a home group. They were a nice couple. It's always interesting when you invite people over for dinner that you don't know at all. We turned out to have things in common, and E loved playing with their girls.
No new news really on the adoption front except that we hit the 7 month mark. Still waiting and doing ok with that right now. Bad news is that referrals came out last week, and the CCAA only referred 2 days worth of LIDs this month. Yep, you read that right. 2 days of LIDs this month. I do believe that is a new low record. At this rate, E might be in Kindergarten by the time L gets home. I think I can do Ok for another year and a half... (kinda my mental timeline... who knows if that's accurate?) but on the other hand, it's hard to believe that one year from now, a complete 4 season cycle from now, we'll still not know any thing more than we know now.
Luckily, Mom and Dad came up during the first week of April for her spring break, and E and I rode back down with them. Then we flew home this past Wednesday. So that has kept us busy, so it softened the blow about the 2 days worth of referrals done in an entire month. I think this "Let's sell and move to get more room" drive is partially related to keeping busy during the adoption wait. Moving, unpacking, especially as slow as I am with that, and decorating a new house will make the adoption wait go faster.
No news on the house front either. We lowered to 315, which has not created any new showings this week. Sigh. I'm doing better with it though right now. Kinda gone back into numb mode after the bank-foreclosure-dream-home sold. (Previous post). Another house that was on our radar also sold. It was a nice house, a little small, and farther out than we wanted to be. But still a nice house and new, and very affordable. A friend of our's sister bought it. So one reason I may be doing better is because there's not a house out there that we would be thrilled with right now. There is the house on the golf course (that makes it sound nice, doesn't it... "the house on the golf course".... it's not as nice as that sounds!! :) is a great house on the inside, but the water/septic situation is a little "iffy" and that's a big deal. That's really the only thing out there that would not be a major renovation project. I think Tuesday will mark the one year mark of our house being on the market. JH Realtor is out of town again with her family. She'll be going out of town again soon too. I just feel like we should be DOING something, but other than that frustration, doing much better. Still trying to trust that God is in control, and that pointing the finger at humans or human situations is not going to make our house sell. We all just do the best we can and make the best decisions we can, and trust God with the rest.
We just got back from S's 3 year old birthday party. E had fun, I think. He was kinda clingy at times during the party... Sometimes I worry he seems more that way than the other kids, (he definitely was the kid who was most like that today) although I know all kids go through that. It's hard as an adoptive parent because you don't want to make everything into an adoption related issue, when it's just normal kid stuff, but at the same time, you can't stick your head in the sand and pretend everything's fine when your baby needs help with an issue. I think that will be especially true with L since she will be older at adoption and in an institution before we get her. But I'm sensitive to that with E too. Sometimes he seems to show the sighs of anxious attachment. Clingy, he seems to be sucking his thumb more now than when he was younger, especially in social situations, his obsession with rubbing his dad's ears when we're out.... I know physical affection is important to him.... but is it weird he needs to do that when we're out and about, not just when we're cuddling while watching TV? I do think it's great he seems to need us and want us, but sometimes he just seems... a little anxious. But as I said earlier, I think all kids have that from time to time, and some kids' temperments seem to make them even more like that. But I just struggle with the whole "adoption is a loss, even infant adoptions, and kids are aware of that loss... resulting in issues with parental separation, etc etc..." to not wanting to make every quirk in his little personality as an (cue scary music.....)adoption issue! There are things I see though that he definitely manifests more than other 2.5 to 3 year olds that we know. I think J would tell me I'm being ridiculous and not to worry, he's just fine, but J also has done little to no reading on raising adopted kids either, not even the Bethany recommended books that are reasonably balanced. I just love my little E so much and want to help him. He seems VERY attached to us, and loves us so much, but I don't want that to impact his ability to go confidently into the rest of the world. If it is related to attachment and adoption, I want to help him process it, and not ignore an issue, if we can start working on it now.
Whew... didn't mean to go into all that.... just my ramblings this afternoon as E snoozes and J is at D's house working. Think I'll go take a nap now.
Night-night.
No new news really on the adoption front except that we hit the 7 month mark. Still waiting and doing ok with that right now. Bad news is that referrals came out last week, and the CCAA only referred 2 days worth of LIDs this month. Yep, you read that right. 2 days of LIDs this month. I do believe that is a new low record. At this rate, E might be in Kindergarten by the time L gets home. I think I can do Ok for another year and a half... (kinda my mental timeline... who knows if that's accurate?) but on the other hand, it's hard to believe that one year from now, a complete 4 season cycle from now, we'll still not know any thing more than we know now.
Luckily, Mom and Dad came up during the first week of April for her spring break, and E and I rode back down with them. Then we flew home this past Wednesday. So that has kept us busy, so it softened the blow about the 2 days worth of referrals done in an entire month. I think this "Let's sell and move to get more room" drive is partially related to keeping busy during the adoption wait. Moving, unpacking, especially as slow as I am with that, and decorating a new house will make the adoption wait go faster.
No news on the house front either. We lowered to 315, which has not created any new showings this week. Sigh. I'm doing better with it though right now. Kinda gone back into numb mode after the bank-foreclosure-dream-home sold. (Previous post). Another house that was on our radar also sold. It was a nice house, a little small, and farther out than we wanted to be. But still a nice house and new, and very affordable. A friend of our's sister bought it. So one reason I may be doing better is because there's not a house out there that we would be thrilled with right now. There is the house on the golf course (that makes it sound nice, doesn't it... "the house on the golf course".... it's not as nice as that sounds!! :) is a great house on the inside, but the water/septic situation is a little "iffy" and that's a big deal. That's really the only thing out there that would not be a major renovation project. I think Tuesday will mark the one year mark of our house being on the market. JH Realtor is out of town again with her family. She'll be going out of town again soon too. I just feel like we should be DOING something, but other than that frustration, doing much better. Still trying to trust that God is in control, and that pointing the finger at humans or human situations is not going to make our house sell. We all just do the best we can and make the best decisions we can, and trust God with the rest.
We just got back from S's 3 year old birthday party. E had fun, I think. He was kinda clingy at times during the party... Sometimes I worry he seems more that way than the other kids, (he definitely was the kid who was most like that today) although I know all kids go through that. It's hard as an adoptive parent because you don't want to make everything into an adoption related issue, when it's just normal kid stuff, but at the same time, you can't stick your head in the sand and pretend everything's fine when your baby needs help with an issue. I think that will be especially true with L since she will be older at adoption and in an institution before we get her. But I'm sensitive to that with E too. Sometimes he seems to show the sighs of anxious attachment. Clingy, he seems to be sucking his thumb more now than when he was younger, especially in social situations, his obsession with rubbing his dad's ears when we're out.... I know physical affection is important to him.... but is it weird he needs to do that when we're out and about, not just when we're cuddling while watching TV? I do think it's great he seems to need us and want us, but sometimes he just seems... a little anxious. But as I said earlier, I think all kids have that from time to time, and some kids' temperments seem to make them even more like that. But I just struggle with the whole "adoption is a loss, even infant adoptions, and kids are aware of that loss... resulting in issues with parental separation, etc etc..." to not wanting to make every quirk in his little personality as an (cue scary music.....)adoption issue! There are things I see though that he definitely manifests more than other 2.5 to 3 year olds that we know. I think J would tell me I'm being ridiculous and not to worry, he's just fine, but J also has done little to no reading on raising adopted kids either, not even the Bethany recommended books that are reasonably balanced. I just love my little E so much and want to help him. He seems VERY attached to us, and loves us so much, but I don't want that to impact his ability to go confidently into the rest of the world. If it is related to attachment and adoption, I want to help him process it, and not ignore an issue, if we can start working on it now.
Whew... didn't mean to go into all that.... just my ramblings this afternoon as E snoozes and J is at D's house working. Think I'll go take a nap now.
Night-night.
Friday, March 30, 2007
:( (Warning: pity party ahead)
This is not going to be a blog about selling a house... Honestly! There's just no news on the adoption front so there's nothing really to write there. I really am trying to keep a right perspective about the house stuff though, and this is one place for me to hash out all my frustrations, so I can get out all the "ugly" and then put forth the right attitude. Cause I know what's right, it's just that sometimes I gotta get the emotions out so I can feel what's right. What's right is that it is just a house, and God will provide in His time, in His way, and I gotta deal with that. His plan is better than ours anyway.
The house that we really, really wanted....dream house in bank foreclosure... is under contract.
:(
Just logged onto the MLS and found it.
Keep in mind the realtor, who is friends with our realtor, promised to keep her abreast of all activity. Went under contract, and I'll bet JH, our realtor has no idea. (Mini-vent-- sometimes I get tired of telling her what's going on in the market, new listings, price drops, other market activity... shouldn't she be telling US these things?? I know it's a new market with buyers having access to the MLS, but still!!!) We lost that house. And our house is still. sitting. here. UNSOLD. In two weeks, our house will have been on the market for a year.
DH has kinda kicked into pro-active gear lately... I think it's his way of dealing with it. He's mulching, planting flowers, wanting to change the front door, paint shutters (if we could agree to a color) changing out our antique dishwasher finally. I think he's trying to feel some control in selling our house, this situation where we have no control. We had done tons of positive changes a year ago, JH agreed everything was great, we put in AC.. did all the right things. Now I kinda feel like we're just grasping at straws. I don't know if any of those things (except maybe the dishwasher) will truly help sell a house. Yes, maybe do a little for the curb appeal. But the bottom line is we seem to hear for the millionth time "It's a really nice house, it shows well, but it's too small for my clients." gag. puke. rant. No amount of flowers will change that.
So... do we lower our price? again? will it even make a difference?? We're talking about doing 319, but will that even make a difference? Even if we drop to like 299... which is significantly lower than our comfort level of buying another house... would it sell? And what kind of offers will that bring it?? 275?? That's laughable, considering what other houses, NOT as nice as ours, with half as much land are selling for. WHY WON'T OUR HOUSE SELL?? Are people who are shopping in that price range, still expecting more house for that price? People's expectations of a starter house, in a starter house price range are just not realistic. Other realtors, who have no reason to protect our feelings, have said it's a nice house, and priced right. But just not for their clients.
I'm angry. Frustrated. Sad. I had such dreams for the dream house. DH and I had talked about so many things. I feel stuck. If our house had sold in the last few weeks, we would have it. Even the cheap land on E Road that we had considered for building is now sold. All the good options for us to buy have sold, while we sit. Stuck. Unable to sell our house.
The longer this goes on, the tougher it is to not start looking at JH Realtor as our problem. It is her job to sell our house. And it has NOT sold. I love her as a person and as a friend, but there's got to be something we're missing. Even in this slow market, one year is ridiculous.
And it doesn't help that she showed our house to her sister 6 weeks ago or so, and her sister and boyfriend loved it. They were so excited, and said if the financing worked out, they would seriously consider it. It was all they wanted. They went and met with a broker, and figured out there was "no way they could afford it" according to JH. Their top number was a good 25K below our selling price and they could not stretch themselves that far. She said they were disappointed but they were going to keep looking at lower priced houses. That was totally fine, and understandable. Well this week, JH told me they bought a house, closing this week. It came out in conversation that they bought a house slightly MORE expensive than ours. What happened to not being able to afford ours?? If they didn't want to buy our house, fine, but don't tell me they couldn't afford it when they bought a more expensive house. Like Dr. Phil says, don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining.
Ahh... I know I'll have more faith about all of this later, but right now I'm just sad that dream house is gone. Tired of limbo-land.
The house that we really, really wanted....dream house in bank foreclosure... is under contract.
:(
Just logged onto the MLS and found it.
Keep in mind the realtor, who is friends with our realtor, promised to keep her abreast of all activity. Went under contract, and I'll bet JH, our realtor has no idea. (Mini-vent-- sometimes I get tired of telling her what's going on in the market, new listings, price drops, other market activity... shouldn't she be telling US these things?? I know it's a new market with buyers having access to the MLS, but still!!!) We lost that house. And our house is still. sitting. here. UNSOLD. In two weeks, our house will have been on the market for a year.
DH has kinda kicked into pro-active gear lately... I think it's his way of dealing with it. He's mulching, planting flowers, wanting to change the front door, paint shutters (if we could agree to a color) changing out our antique dishwasher finally. I think he's trying to feel some control in selling our house, this situation where we have no control. We had done tons of positive changes a year ago, JH agreed everything was great, we put in AC.. did all the right things. Now I kinda feel like we're just grasping at straws. I don't know if any of those things (except maybe the dishwasher) will truly help sell a house. Yes, maybe do a little for the curb appeal. But the bottom line is we seem to hear for the millionth time "It's a really nice house, it shows well, but it's too small for my clients." gag. puke. rant. No amount of flowers will change that.
So... do we lower our price? again? will it even make a difference?? We're talking about doing 319, but will that even make a difference? Even if we drop to like 299... which is significantly lower than our comfort level of buying another house... would it sell? And what kind of offers will that bring it?? 275?? That's laughable, considering what other houses, NOT as nice as ours, with half as much land are selling for. WHY WON'T OUR HOUSE SELL?? Are people who are shopping in that price range, still expecting more house for that price? People's expectations of a starter house, in a starter house price range are just not realistic. Other realtors, who have no reason to protect our feelings, have said it's a nice house, and priced right. But just not for their clients.
I'm angry. Frustrated. Sad. I had such dreams for the dream house. DH and I had talked about so many things. I feel stuck. If our house had sold in the last few weeks, we would have it. Even the cheap land on E Road that we had considered for building is now sold. All the good options for us to buy have sold, while we sit. Stuck. Unable to sell our house.
The longer this goes on, the tougher it is to not start looking at JH Realtor as our problem. It is her job to sell our house. And it has NOT sold. I love her as a person and as a friend, but there's got to be something we're missing. Even in this slow market, one year is ridiculous.
And it doesn't help that she showed our house to her sister 6 weeks ago or so, and her sister and boyfriend loved it. They were so excited, and said if the financing worked out, they would seriously consider it. It was all they wanted. They went and met with a broker, and figured out there was "no way they could afford it" according to JH. Their top number was a good 25K below our selling price and they could not stretch themselves that far. She said they were disappointed but they were going to keep looking at lower priced houses. That was totally fine, and understandable. Well this week, JH told me they bought a house, closing this week. It came out in conversation that they bought a house slightly MORE expensive than ours. What happened to not being able to afford ours?? If they didn't want to buy our house, fine, but don't tell me they couldn't afford it when they bought a more expensive house. Like Dr. Phil says, don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining.
Ahh... I know I'll have more faith about all of this later, but right now I'm just sad that dream house is gone. Tired of limbo-land.
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