Yesterday was seven months since we were LID. We had a couple from church over for dinner who are interested in starting a home group. They were a nice couple. It's always interesting when you invite people over for dinner that you don't know at all. We turned out to have things in common, and E loved playing with their girls.
No new news really on the adoption front except that we hit the 7 month mark. Still waiting and doing ok with that right now. Bad news is that referrals came out last week, and the CCAA only referred 2 days worth of LIDs this month. Yep, you read that right. 2 days of LIDs this month. I do believe that is a new low record. At this rate, E might be in Kindergarten by the time L gets home. I think I can do Ok for another year and a half... (kinda my mental timeline... who knows if that's accurate?) but on the other hand, it's hard to believe that one year from now, a complete 4 season cycle from now, we'll still not know any thing more than we know now.
Luckily, Mom and Dad came up during the first week of April for her spring break, and E and I rode back down with them. Then we flew home this past Wednesday. So that has kept us busy, so it softened the blow about the 2 days worth of referrals done in an entire month. I think this "Let's sell and move to get more room" drive is partially related to keeping busy during the adoption wait. Moving, unpacking, especially as slow as I am with that, and decorating a new house will make the adoption wait go faster.
No news on the house front either. We lowered to 315, which has not created any new showings this week. Sigh. I'm doing better with it though right now. Kinda gone back into numb mode after the bank-foreclosure-dream-home sold. (Previous post). Another house that was on our radar also sold. It was a nice house, a little small, and farther out than we wanted to be. But still a nice house and new, and very affordable. A friend of our's sister bought it. So one reason I may be doing better is because there's not a house out there that we would be thrilled with right now. There is the house on the golf course (that makes it sound nice, doesn't it... "the house on the golf course".... it's not as nice as that sounds!! :) is a great house on the inside, but the water/septic situation is a little "iffy" and that's a big deal. That's really the only thing out there that would not be a major renovation project. I think Tuesday will mark the one year mark of our house being on the market. JH Realtor is out of town again with her family. She'll be going out of town again soon too. I just feel like we should be DOING something, but other than that frustration, doing much better. Still trying to trust that God is in control, and that pointing the finger at humans or human situations is not going to make our house sell. We all just do the best we can and make the best decisions we can, and trust God with the rest.
We just got back from S's 3 year old birthday party. E had fun, I think. He was kinda clingy at times during the party... Sometimes I worry he seems more that way than the other kids, (he definitely was the kid who was most like that today) although I know all kids go through that. It's hard as an adoptive parent because you don't want to make everything into an adoption related issue, when it's just normal kid stuff, but at the same time, you can't stick your head in the sand and pretend everything's fine when your baby needs help with an issue. I think that will be especially true with L since she will be older at adoption and in an institution before we get her. But I'm sensitive to that with E too. Sometimes he seems to show the sighs of anxious attachment. Clingy, he seems to be sucking his thumb more now than when he was younger, especially in social situations, his obsession with rubbing his dad's ears when we're out.... I know physical affection is important to him.... but is it weird he needs to do that when we're out and about, not just when we're cuddling while watching TV? I do think it's great he seems to need us and want us, but sometimes he just seems... a little anxious. But as I said earlier, I think all kids have that from time to time, and some kids' temperments seem to make them even more like that. But I just struggle with the whole "adoption is a loss, even infant adoptions, and kids are aware of that loss... resulting in issues with parental separation, etc etc..." to not wanting to make every quirk in his little personality as an (cue scary music.....)adoption issue! There are things I see though that he definitely manifests more than other 2.5 to 3 year olds that we know. I think J would tell me I'm being ridiculous and not to worry, he's just fine, but J also has done little to no reading on raising adopted kids either, not even the Bethany recommended books that are reasonably balanced. I just love my little E so much and want to help him. He seems VERY attached to us, and loves us so much, but I don't want that to impact his ability to go confidently into the rest of the world. If it is related to attachment and adoption, I want to help him process it, and not ignore an issue, if we can start working on it now.
Whew... didn't mean to go into all that.... just my ramblings this afternoon as E snoozes and J is at D's house working. Think I'll go take a nap now.
Night-night.
Saturday, April 14, 2007
Friday, March 30, 2007
:( (Warning: pity party ahead)
This is not going to be a blog about selling a house... Honestly! There's just no news on the adoption front so there's nothing really to write there. I really am trying to keep a right perspective about the house stuff though, and this is one place for me to hash out all my frustrations, so I can get out all the "ugly" and then put forth the right attitude. Cause I know what's right, it's just that sometimes I gotta get the emotions out so I can feel what's right. What's right is that it is just a house, and God will provide in His time, in His way, and I gotta deal with that. His plan is better than ours anyway.
The house that we really, really wanted....dream house in bank foreclosure... is under contract.
:(
Just logged onto the MLS and found it.
Keep in mind the realtor, who is friends with our realtor, promised to keep her abreast of all activity. Went under contract, and I'll bet JH, our realtor has no idea. (Mini-vent-- sometimes I get tired of telling her what's going on in the market, new listings, price drops, other market activity... shouldn't she be telling US these things?? I know it's a new market with buyers having access to the MLS, but still!!!) We lost that house. And our house is still. sitting. here. UNSOLD. In two weeks, our house will have been on the market for a year.
DH has kinda kicked into pro-active gear lately... I think it's his way of dealing with it. He's mulching, planting flowers, wanting to change the front door, paint shutters (if we could agree to a color) changing out our antique dishwasher finally. I think he's trying to feel some control in selling our house, this situation where we have no control. We had done tons of positive changes a year ago, JH agreed everything was great, we put in AC.. did all the right things. Now I kinda feel like we're just grasping at straws. I don't know if any of those things (except maybe the dishwasher) will truly help sell a house. Yes, maybe do a little for the curb appeal. But the bottom line is we seem to hear for the millionth time "It's a really nice house, it shows well, but it's too small for my clients." gag. puke. rant. No amount of flowers will change that.
So... do we lower our price? again? will it even make a difference?? We're talking about doing 319, but will that even make a difference? Even if we drop to like 299... which is significantly lower than our comfort level of buying another house... would it sell? And what kind of offers will that bring it?? 275?? That's laughable, considering what other houses, NOT as nice as ours, with half as much land are selling for. WHY WON'T OUR HOUSE SELL?? Are people who are shopping in that price range, still expecting more house for that price? People's expectations of a starter house, in a starter house price range are just not realistic. Other realtors, who have no reason to protect our feelings, have said it's a nice house, and priced right. But just not for their clients.
I'm angry. Frustrated. Sad. I had such dreams for the dream house. DH and I had talked about so many things. I feel stuck. If our house had sold in the last few weeks, we would have it. Even the cheap land on E Road that we had considered for building is now sold. All the good options for us to buy have sold, while we sit. Stuck. Unable to sell our house.
The longer this goes on, the tougher it is to not start looking at JH Realtor as our problem. It is her job to sell our house. And it has NOT sold. I love her as a person and as a friend, but there's got to be something we're missing. Even in this slow market, one year is ridiculous.
And it doesn't help that she showed our house to her sister 6 weeks ago or so, and her sister and boyfriend loved it. They were so excited, and said if the financing worked out, they would seriously consider it. It was all they wanted. They went and met with a broker, and figured out there was "no way they could afford it" according to JH. Their top number was a good 25K below our selling price and they could not stretch themselves that far. She said they were disappointed but they were going to keep looking at lower priced houses. That was totally fine, and understandable. Well this week, JH told me they bought a house, closing this week. It came out in conversation that they bought a house slightly MORE expensive than ours. What happened to not being able to afford ours?? If they didn't want to buy our house, fine, but don't tell me they couldn't afford it when they bought a more expensive house. Like Dr. Phil says, don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining.
Ahh... I know I'll have more faith about all of this later, but right now I'm just sad that dream house is gone. Tired of limbo-land.
The house that we really, really wanted....dream house in bank foreclosure... is under contract.
:(
Just logged onto the MLS and found it.
Keep in mind the realtor, who is friends with our realtor, promised to keep her abreast of all activity. Went under contract, and I'll bet JH, our realtor has no idea. (Mini-vent-- sometimes I get tired of telling her what's going on in the market, new listings, price drops, other market activity... shouldn't she be telling US these things?? I know it's a new market with buyers having access to the MLS, but still!!!) We lost that house. And our house is still. sitting. here. UNSOLD. In two weeks, our house will have been on the market for a year.
DH has kinda kicked into pro-active gear lately... I think it's his way of dealing with it. He's mulching, planting flowers, wanting to change the front door, paint shutters (if we could agree to a color) changing out our antique dishwasher finally. I think he's trying to feel some control in selling our house, this situation where we have no control. We had done tons of positive changes a year ago, JH agreed everything was great, we put in AC.. did all the right things. Now I kinda feel like we're just grasping at straws. I don't know if any of those things (except maybe the dishwasher) will truly help sell a house. Yes, maybe do a little for the curb appeal. But the bottom line is we seem to hear for the millionth time "It's a really nice house, it shows well, but it's too small for my clients." gag. puke. rant. No amount of flowers will change that.
So... do we lower our price? again? will it even make a difference?? We're talking about doing 319, but will that even make a difference? Even if we drop to like 299... which is significantly lower than our comfort level of buying another house... would it sell? And what kind of offers will that bring it?? 275?? That's laughable, considering what other houses, NOT as nice as ours, with half as much land are selling for. WHY WON'T OUR HOUSE SELL?? Are people who are shopping in that price range, still expecting more house for that price? People's expectations of a starter house, in a starter house price range are just not realistic. Other realtors, who have no reason to protect our feelings, have said it's a nice house, and priced right. But just not for their clients.
I'm angry. Frustrated. Sad. I had such dreams for the dream house. DH and I had talked about so many things. I feel stuck. If our house had sold in the last few weeks, we would have it. Even the cheap land on E Road that we had considered for building is now sold. All the good options for us to buy have sold, while we sit. Stuck. Unable to sell our house.
The longer this goes on, the tougher it is to not start looking at JH Realtor as our problem. It is her job to sell our house. And it has NOT sold. I love her as a person and as a friend, but there's got to be something we're missing. Even in this slow market, one year is ridiculous.
And it doesn't help that she showed our house to her sister 6 weeks ago or so, and her sister and boyfriend loved it. They were so excited, and said if the financing worked out, they would seriously consider it. It was all they wanted. They went and met with a broker, and figured out there was "no way they could afford it" according to JH. Their top number was a good 25K below our selling price and they could not stretch themselves that far. She said they were disappointed but they were going to keep looking at lower priced houses. That was totally fine, and understandable. Well this week, JH told me they bought a house, closing this week. It came out in conversation that they bought a house slightly MORE expensive than ours. What happened to not being able to afford ours?? If they didn't want to buy our house, fine, but don't tell me they couldn't afford it when they bought a more expensive house. Like Dr. Phil says, don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining.
Ahh... I know I'll have more faith about all of this later, but right now I'm just sad that dream house is gone. Tired of limbo-land.
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
House still hasn't sold
in case you're wondering. :)
Of course, good news is that neither has "dream house" in bank foreclosure. They have done a lot of the work on it that needed to be done. That's great, but kinda bad news for us. We were hoping to use the work that needed to be done as negotiation to get it in a price we were comfortable with. Please, God, let our house sell soon. Open house this weekend. I don't know about that.... in 11 1/2 months of being on the market, we've have half a dozen or more open houses. And we've had very low turnout. It doesn't seem worth the hassle. I hate to say that to JH realtor, though, because you never know. That could bring a buyer. She did tell me yesterday about them advertising in the paper, but I didn't see it. I looked in the paper... That's the only big complaint I have with her job... Maybe more advertisements would help. That's the 2nd time they've said there would be an ad and I didn't see one. I try really hard not to point the finger at her too much though. It's easy to blame the realtor when your house doesn't sell for a period of time. It's logical even. But it doesn't mean it's accurate. Doubly awkward when you're friends with the realtor, and on top of that, friends from church.
Our house is well maintained, nice, clean, solid. But unfortunately, after this many months on the market, I'm afraid it's getting pegged as a house that must have something wrong with it.... in people's minds they're thinking there must be something wrong.
I keep telling myself: God's will is more important than a house. So chill out girl.
Oh, and we're 6 months in to our wait for our little girl. Come on home L.
Of course, good news is that neither has "dream house" in bank foreclosure. They have done a lot of the work on it that needed to be done. That's great, but kinda bad news for us. We were hoping to use the work that needed to be done as negotiation to get it in a price we were comfortable with. Please, God, let our house sell soon. Open house this weekend. I don't know about that.... in 11 1/2 months of being on the market, we've have half a dozen or more open houses. And we've had very low turnout. It doesn't seem worth the hassle. I hate to say that to JH realtor, though, because you never know. That could bring a buyer. She did tell me yesterday about them advertising in the paper, but I didn't see it. I looked in the paper... That's the only big complaint I have with her job... Maybe more advertisements would help. That's the 2nd time they've said there would be an ad and I didn't see one. I try really hard not to point the finger at her too much though. It's easy to blame the realtor when your house doesn't sell for a period of time. It's logical even. But it doesn't mean it's accurate. Doubly awkward when you're friends with the realtor, and on top of that, friends from church.
Our house is well maintained, nice, clean, solid. But unfortunately, after this many months on the market, I'm afraid it's getting pegged as a house that must have something wrong with it.... in people's minds they're thinking there must be something wrong.
I keep telling myself: God's will is more important than a house. So chill out girl.
Oh, and we're 6 months in to our wait for our little girl. Come on home L.
Monday, March 5, 2007
Our house saga....
OK
I know God's trying to teach me something about patience. Although it's weird, because I've always thought of myself as a pretty patient person. I mean, if DH were to describe me, and other people who know me well, they would say that I'm patient. I was a special education teacher, for pete's sake. You know?
Our home was a little on the small side even before Little Man came into our family. We purged a lot when he came, and we've been able to make it work, although it has been tight. Swings, toys... they all take space. We don't really have room for visitors, and since both sets of parents live 600 miles away, when they come, they come for a week at a time. It's not just bedroom space either. Our living room is tiny, our kitchen is tiny, and we have no storage. And everything is really close together. I don't want to be a pack rat, but every family has to store some things. (Christmas decorations, J's hunting paraphenelia... things for babies that I don't want to re-buy once L comes home) We can't host the home group we lead /teach at our home, even if our normal place cancels at the last minute. I really don't want a bigger home to keep up with the Jones family. It is a practical need. I want to have room for the kids to run and play on the inside when the weather's crappy. I want to be able to have our parents over. (especially the grumpy FIL who needs a little space away from the activity of an active toddler... I can't imagine adding one more to the mix while he's here) We have relatives from GA who want to come visit, (sometimes to visit DC) and since they've never been here, they think it's not a big deal to come with their family of 5 plus a few more grandparents... I'm rambling, but you get the point. I guess I'm defending my thought process of wanting a bigger house. Having spent time in Africa, I do realize that our humble home is an absolute blessing. And I realize it's not humble by most of the world's standards. I have 2 working bathrooms, I have heating and air conditioning, I have a working modern kitchen. We are blessed. And I am thankful. But here's the saga....
Our house has been on the market for 10 months. Even in a slow market, 10 months is a long time. We have had showings. Even in the slowest months of Dec-Feb, we rarely went 2 weeks without showings. We have had several people seriously like it, especially in the last few weeks. Last week, we had a couple come who LOVED it. JH(our realtor) showed it to them, and said she would be very surprised if they didn't make an offer. They were expecting a baby boy, his parents live 2 minutes from here.... they had all the "buyer talk" during the showing. They were renting, so no contingencies... Perfect buyers. Except they called JH a few days later and said they decided to wait a year to buy. I'm not sure why because honestly, the market is so slow that this is a perfect time to get a great deal. Maybe they need to save more money. I don't know. But they didn't buy.
Then a lady came on Thursday. She came back on Saturday morning with her husband. That night, JH called to tell us that the agent called her and was asking tons of questions and that they were going to write an offer. She said it was a good offer (close to or at asking price) and they wanted to close in 30 or 45 days. Her words were "they LOVED the house, would be devastated to possibly lose it, etc etc." She kept asking if we had any other written offers right now, they didn't want to take a chance on losing it. They wanted to "sleep on it" but expected to fax the offer within the next few days. So this morning, I woke up with the anticipation that today or tomorrow would be the day, FINALLY, that we could start moving forward with our own plans. Even talked to JH this morning (because we had yet another showing this morning) and she still sounded optimistic. I got home after driving around to waste time for the showing today (totally different potential buyers), and had an email. It said they "decided not to move forward" with buying the property. WHAT?????? How can you flip-flop that hard in 36 hours? They already had done their lender pre-approval thing, so it wasn't an issue of money/lending.
Now, this week we've had 5 showings in 7 days. Which is awesome. JH says that when a house does not sell, it is usually an issue of not getting enough viewings/showings or the price. It all boils down to one or both of those issues. We obviously have had plenty of showings. We have, therefore, lowered our price. But we've lowered it 35 thousand dollars. In considering the value of our house and the price range it's in, 35K is a lot!! We're not talking about a 500K house that has been lowered 35K..... our house is not that expensive to begin with. We have compromised a lot in that area. Truthfully, it's going to be a pinch for us to pay off all our bills, put money aside for L's adoption, and still buy a house with more room in an area where the average home is probably over half a million. And every agent that comes through says that price isn't the reason it hasn't sold, they think it's priced right. People think it's incredibly charming. Agents say it shows well. The most common reason people don't buy it is because it's too small. Yep, the reason we're selling. Nothing we can do about it. If we could make the house bigger, we might be staying here. We can't add on because of where the septic field is, and the easement for the road around us.
I'm just so beyond frustrated. We made the decision to sell last Valentine's Day. So it's been over a year since we made the decision and started thinking and dreaming about our next home. I feel stuck. It's just the making a decision to move forward with something, and perusing the listings over the last 10 months, looking at possibilities for our family, and being able to do nothing until our house sells. We've seen several things we liked sell while we were waiting. I don't hate our current home. It's home. It's just being stuck in limbo. Ready to move on..... you know?
And secretly, I have been praying the last few weeks. I had heard about the power of praying specifically. So on Valentine's Day came, a year after making the decision to sell before we added another little one to our family, I prayed we would have a contract by March 5. Silly, childish, maybe, I don't know. Today is March 5. After this weekend's hopeful possibility, I was smiling at God's faithfullness, and His goodness in answering me.... just in time. Now, I still praise Him. He is still good. He is still faithful. But I am disappointed. I am sad. i am frustrated. Again.
I also would be remiss not to mention a house that is in the target location we'd like to stay in that would seriously be our dream house. It is bigger than we hoped for in our price range. It has a basement. It has 5 acres. It has a mudroom and laundry room that is incredible. It has seriously challenged bathrooms and kitchen, so that needs to be redone, and lots of other maintenance issues that make it almost in our price range. If this house were fixed up it would be way out of our price range, but because it needs some work, it is just slightly out of our price range. It's a bank repossession. I don't know that we'd get it, and they'd sell it at our price but it's hopeful. We're reasonably handy, my dad is a pro, we could make it awesome. I was awake last night dreaming of the possibilites. When the contract possibility fell through, I admit this house is part of the reason I'm so disappointed.
Between this and our long adoption wait, I know He's trying to teach me patience.
I am also aware that I'm spending too much time thinking about it. Being at home sometimes gives me too much time to think about it. And the Chinese adoption. Hence, my need to blog some of this out.
Oh, and one more disclaimer: About JH, our realtor-- Its seems logical to point the finger in her direction. But I do believe she's done the best she can in this market. She's done some creative things, she has had numerous open houses. She maybe could have spent a little more money on advertising, in my opinion, but she has done some of that too. And with the amount of showings we've had, I don't know if it would have helped anyway. She's frustrated too, and wants it sell so badly. She's a friend, along with our agent, and I know she's be just as thrilled as us if would sell.
Please, God, bring the right buyer to our home. And help me to be more trusting of You in this process.
I know God's trying to teach me something about patience. Although it's weird, because I've always thought of myself as a pretty patient person. I mean, if DH were to describe me, and other people who know me well, they would say that I'm patient. I was a special education teacher, for pete's sake. You know?
Our home was a little on the small side even before Little Man came into our family. We purged a lot when he came, and we've been able to make it work, although it has been tight. Swings, toys... they all take space. We don't really have room for visitors, and since both sets of parents live 600 miles away, when they come, they come for a week at a time. It's not just bedroom space either. Our living room is tiny, our kitchen is tiny, and we have no storage. And everything is really close together. I don't want to be a pack rat, but every family has to store some things. (Christmas decorations, J's hunting paraphenelia... things for babies that I don't want to re-buy once L comes home) We can't host the home group we lead /teach at our home, even if our normal place cancels at the last minute. I really don't want a bigger home to keep up with the Jones family. It is a practical need. I want to have room for the kids to run and play on the inside when the weather's crappy. I want to be able to have our parents over. (especially the grumpy FIL who needs a little space away from the activity of an active toddler... I can't imagine adding one more to the mix while he's here) We have relatives from GA who want to come visit, (sometimes to visit DC) and since they've never been here, they think it's not a big deal to come with their family of 5 plus a few more grandparents... I'm rambling, but you get the point. I guess I'm defending my thought process of wanting a bigger house. Having spent time in Africa, I do realize that our humble home is an absolute blessing. And I realize it's not humble by most of the world's standards. I have 2 working bathrooms, I have heating and air conditioning, I have a working modern kitchen. We are blessed. And I am thankful. But here's the saga....
Our house has been on the market for 10 months. Even in a slow market, 10 months is a long time. We have had showings. Even in the slowest months of Dec-Feb, we rarely went 2 weeks without showings. We have had several people seriously like it, especially in the last few weeks. Last week, we had a couple come who LOVED it. JH(our realtor) showed it to them, and said she would be very surprised if they didn't make an offer. They were expecting a baby boy, his parents live 2 minutes from here.... they had all the "buyer talk" during the showing. They were renting, so no contingencies... Perfect buyers. Except they called JH a few days later and said they decided to wait a year to buy. I'm not sure why because honestly, the market is so slow that this is a perfect time to get a great deal. Maybe they need to save more money. I don't know. But they didn't buy.
Then a lady came on Thursday. She came back on Saturday morning with her husband. That night, JH called to tell us that the agent called her and was asking tons of questions and that they were going to write an offer. She said it was a good offer (close to or at asking price) and they wanted to close in 30 or 45 days. Her words were "they LOVED the house, would be devastated to possibly lose it, etc etc." She kept asking if we had any other written offers right now, they didn't want to take a chance on losing it. They wanted to "sleep on it" but expected to fax the offer within the next few days. So this morning, I woke up with the anticipation that today or tomorrow would be the day, FINALLY, that we could start moving forward with our own plans. Even talked to JH this morning (because we had yet another showing this morning) and she still sounded optimistic. I got home after driving around to waste time for the showing today (totally different potential buyers), and had an email. It said they "decided not to move forward" with buying the property. WHAT?????? How can you flip-flop that hard in 36 hours? They already had done their lender pre-approval thing, so it wasn't an issue of money/lending.
Now, this week we've had 5 showings in 7 days. Which is awesome. JH says that when a house does not sell, it is usually an issue of not getting enough viewings/showings or the price. It all boils down to one or both of those issues. We obviously have had plenty of showings. We have, therefore, lowered our price. But we've lowered it 35 thousand dollars. In considering the value of our house and the price range it's in, 35K is a lot!! We're not talking about a 500K house that has been lowered 35K..... our house is not that expensive to begin with. We have compromised a lot in that area. Truthfully, it's going to be a pinch for us to pay off all our bills, put money aside for L's adoption, and still buy a house with more room in an area where the average home is probably over half a million. And every agent that comes through says that price isn't the reason it hasn't sold, they think it's priced right. People think it's incredibly charming. Agents say it shows well. The most common reason people don't buy it is because it's too small. Yep, the reason we're selling. Nothing we can do about it. If we could make the house bigger, we might be staying here. We can't add on because of where the septic field is, and the easement for the road around us.
I'm just so beyond frustrated. We made the decision to sell last Valentine's Day. So it's been over a year since we made the decision and started thinking and dreaming about our next home. I feel stuck. It's just the making a decision to move forward with something, and perusing the listings over the last 10 months, looking at possibilities for our family, and being able to do nothing until our house sells. We've seen several things we liked sell while we were waiting. I don't hate our current home. It's home. It's just being stuck in limbo. Ready to move on..... you know?
And secretly, I have been praying the last few weeks. I had heard about the power of praying specifically. So on Valentine's Day came, a year after making the decision to sell before we added another little one to our family, I prayed we would have a contract by March 5. Silly, childish, maybe, I don't know. Today is March 5. After this weekend's hopeful possibility, I was smiling at God's faithfullness, and His goodness in answering me.... just in time. Now, I still praise Him. He is still good. He is still faithful. But I am disappointed. I am sad. i am frustrated. Again.
I also would be remiss not to mention a house that is in the target location we'd like to stay in that would seriously be our dream house. It is bigger than we hoped for in our price range. It has a basement. It has 5 acres. It has a mudroom and laundry room that is incredible. It has seriously challenged bathrooms and kitchen, so that needs to be redone, and lots of other maintenance issues that make it almost in our price range. If this house were fixed up it would be way out of our price range, but because it needs some work, it is just slightly out of our price range. It's a bank repossession. I don't know that we'd get it, and they'd sell it at our price but it's hopeful. We're reasonably handy, my dad is a pro, we could make it awesome. I was awake last night dreaming of the possibilites. When the contract possibility fell through, I admit this house is part of the reason I'm so disappointed.
Between this and our long adoption wait, I know He's trying to teach me patience.
I am also aware that I'm spending too much time thinking about it. Being at home sometimes gives me too much time to think about it. And the Chinese adoption. Hence, my need to blog some of this out.
Oh, and one more disclaimer: About JH, our realtor-- Its seems logical to point the finger in her direction. But I do believe she's done the best she can in this market. She's done some creative things, she has had numerous open houses. She maybe could have spent a little more money on advertising, in my opinion, but she has done some of that too. And with the amount of showings we've had, I don't know if it would have helped anyway. She's frustrated too, and wants it sell so badly. She's a friend, along with our agent, and I know she's be just as thrilled as us if would sell.
Please, God, bring the right buyer to our home. And help me to be more trusting of You in this process.
Monday, February 26, 2007
Saturday, February 24, 2007
Better this week,
OK, much better this week.
We had a good ending to last week, J and I got some things worked out, and things seem much brighter. I'm not so crabby.
We're going this morning to a church in Berryville to talk about our Africa experience. We were invited by our neighbors, the "K" family. It's a youth function. The kids are fasting for 3o hours for world hunger. Pretty neat, actually. I'm nervous though. I hate public speaking. Can't not give testimony to what God did in Africa though, so I immediately agreed when we were asked, but now I'm kinda dreading it. It was supposed to be at 1o AM this morning, but then they bumped us to 1 PM. More hours to get nervous. Also, that's E's nap time, and we're taking him with us so I pray he's good, quiet, and cooperative...
Jsh and L called last night with another marital dispute. Sigh.... I know it's easier sometimes to see, analyze, and fix other people's problems, but they just seem so set on arguing, proving who's right, and just seem to not have much grace or love with each other. I know we're like that sometimes too, but it just seems like they're really struggling. Of course, if we take a snapshot of any family at a particular time, we can see all kinds of bad things. I do feel like J and I are able to help them though and that feels good. Even if we've had a bad week (like last week) it puts us back on the same team, and refocuses us on the right things too. I have a hard time sometimes in disputes with seeing both sides.... so much so that it's hard for me to mediate, and give advice. But for some reason, God really is speaking through sometimes when I'm talking with L. I feel his presence, and his wisdom coming out of my mouth. I don't say that arrogantly at all, because it's not me.
Anyway, nice to think about something else than the talk we've got to do in a few hours.
We had a good ending to last week, J and I got some things worked out, and things seem much brighter. I'm not so crabby.
We're going this morning to a church in Berryville to talk about our Africa experience. We were invited by our neighbors, the "K" family. It's a youth function. The kids are fasting for 3o hours for world hunger. Pretty neat, actually. I'm nervous though. I hate public speaking. Can't not give testimony to what God did in Africa though, so I immediately agreed when we were asked, but now I'm kinda dreading it. It was supposed to be at 1o AM this morning, but then they bumped us to 1 PM. More hours to get nervous. Also, that's E's nap time, and we're taking him with us so I pray he's good, quiet, and cooperative...
Jsh and L called last night with another marital dispute. Sigh.... I know it's easier sometimes to see, analyze, and fix other people's problems, but they just seem so set on arguing, proving who's right, and just seem to not have much grace or love with each other. I know we're like that sometimes too, but it just seems like they're really struggling. Of course, if we take a snapshot of any family at a particular time, we can see all kinds of bad things. I do feel like J and I are able to help them though and that feels good. Even if we've had a bad week (like last week) it puts us back on the same team, and refocuses us on the right things too. I have a hard time sometimes in disputes with seeing both sides.... so much so that it's hard for me to mediate, and give advice. But for some reason, God really is speaking through sometimes when I'm talking with L. I feel his presence, and his wisdom coming out of my mouth. I don't say that arrogantly at all, because it's not me.
Anyway, nice to think about something else than the talk we've got to do in a few hours.
Friday, February 16, 2007
Five months and crabby
So we're five months into this very, very, very long wait.
I find myself really cranky the last few weeks, especially with my hubby. Is it related to this interminable wait? Or am I just dwelling on self---- talking it out on him? Whatever it is, I wish I would snap out of it. Cause I don't like myself when I'm like this.
This week was Valentine's Day. On Wed (V-day) we had a steak dinner planned at home. Right as we were about to eat our friends, D and J, called to see if they could come over to heat their dinner and bathe the kids. Their power had gone out because of the snow and ice we also got this week. Oops, forgot to mention that. We got snow and ice this week. No school Wed-Friday, still out there. Temps aren't getting above freezing this entire week. Brr.....
But I digress. Anyway, we didn't exactly have a romantic dinner with all the kids and unexpected company. Therein my point of crabbiness on this particular day. By the next day, I realized how self-centered my attitude was and hated that I felt that way the night before. On Thursday, Feb 15, we went to dinner leaving E with L and K, and their son R. It was a nice dinner, and for the first time this week, we actually had a nice conversation. (My fault, not his)
Anyway, feeling better. I need to follow the philosophy that feelings and actions begin with thoughts. If I choose to think good things about my life, good things about my husband.... therein my emotions will follow. I hate that sometimes I focus on the negative.
I will not allow myself to be cranky again (or for a good long while). It makes me and everyone around me miserable.
Disclaimer: I read over this and it sounds probably worse than it is. :) I haven't thrown anything, yelled, or had any major explosions. I have been short, snippy, and inwardly had a bad, bad attitude. Not pleasant to live with. You know. Woman drama.
I find myself really cranky the last few weeks, especially with my hubby. Is it related to this interminable wait? Or am I just dwelling on self---- talking it out on him? Whatever it is, I wish I would snap out of it. Cause I don't like myself when I'm like this.
This week was Valentine's Day. On Wed (V-day) we had a steak dinner planned at home. Right as we were about to eat our friends, D and J, called to see if they could come over to heat their dinner and bathe the kids. Their power had gone out because of the snow and ice we also got this week. Oops, forgot to mention that. We got snow and ice this week. No school Wed-Friday, still out there. Temps aren't getting above freezing this entire week. Brr.....
But I digress. Anyway, we didn't exactly have a romantic dinner with all the kids and unexpected company. Therein my point of crabbiness on this particular day. By the next day, I realized how self-centered my attitude was and hated that I felt that way the night before. On Thursday, Feb 15, we went to dinner leaving E with L and K, and their son R. It was a nice dinner, and for the first time this week, we actually had a nice conversation. (My fault, not his)
Anyway, feeling better. I need to follow the philosophy that feelings and actions begin with thoughts. If I choose to think good things about my life, good things about my husband.... therein my emotions will follow. I hate that sometimes I focus on the negative.
I will not allow myself to be cranky again (or for a good long while). It makes me and everyone around me miserable.
Disclaimer: I read over this and it sounds probably worse than it is. :) I haven't thrown anything, yelled, or had any major explosions. I have been short, snippy, and inwardly had a bad, bad attitude. Not pleasant to live with. You know. Woman drama.
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